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Are You Overlooking The Final Picture?

On April 25, 2009, in Leadership That Lasts, by Neculai Fantanaru

Evaluate people without losing sight of "the light" that surrounds them.

One day a father brought his son to an exhibition of graphics and design. There were many artists who were making for free portraits in pencil to all those who wanted to have a memory in black/white.

"Why should not I also have a memory with my son? he said to himself. So he asked one of the artists to make the portrait of his seven years-old son. The artist accepted, put the child on a chair and asked him to stand still, then started working.

He first drew his left eye, when suddenly the child’s father interrupted him: "It doesn't look too much at the eyes with my son."

"Wait please, the drawing is not ready yet", replied the artist who continued to draw.

After finishing the drawing and the right eye, the father of the child, rather disappointed, once again interrupted him: "I still don't think that he looks like my son."

"Please wait a little more, the drawing it is still not ready" the artist’s answer came immediately. The child’s father began to lose his patience. Then the artist drew the nose, lips, chin, cheeks, ears, eyebrows, head and the hair of the child.

"Now does he look like your son?" the artist asked him. This time the father remained stunned. The drawing perfectly embodied the image of his son.

Leadership: Are you making decisions before or after the things are taking a definitive form?

Do you respect the truth underlying the reality?

It would be much easier to maintain relations with the other people if we would see the final picture from the beginning and we would not rush to make conclusions. Unfortunately, then like the father of the child, sometimes we tend to see the reality without valuing the truth underlying it. Furthermore, when we do not know the truth, we cannot respect it – therefore, we will tend to judge people in a wrong way, and to strongly criticize them sometimes.

People’s first reaction it is of association – they are trying to find similarities between the new information and the known one. At first, the father of the child did not find any similarity between his son and the unfinished portrait of the artist, but as he has added new elements, the image of his son began to take shape nicely.

Our most natural reaction is to rush to accuse someone when he does not do his job properly. Nevertheless, who knows, maybe the things are not what they seem at first sight. Maybe if we wait a little longer instead of rushing to conclusions, things acquiring a final form, we will be satisfied of the final result.

The personal image that feeds leadership is the "drawing" from which are derived your possible inclinations towards adopting an original way of thinking and expression.

Accessing the reality that you project over others is often similar to being aware of the image you have in your mind but you cannot express in as original and devoid of clichés way as possible. Here intervenes your own perception over the recipient to which you deliver the image and its "negative", focused on the union between what you know and what you assume, given as a defining characteristic a moment of real life.

The vision, focused on the direct observation of phenomena and concrete facts, must first be a complete version of what was in front of you all the time. Them it must be a repositioning of what matters in the long term as the content of a guidance lesson in choosing the best path forward. Whenever you try to bring forth a new vision of reality, you will certainly experience the formula: "Wait a bit, the drawing is not done yet !"

Leadership: Do you dive into a deep darkness without knowing how what is placed in front of you looks like?

Not to perceive correctly the reality of the other people, or distorting it is like entering a narrow passage that as you go forward, the light loses from intensity and transforms into an impenetrable darkness. You are plunging deeper and deeper into the full darkness as if you would know the road, when in fact you depart more and more from the right way.

The reality is "the light" that you lose from sight when you rely on your own beliefs without fully understanding the mentality of people (or when you challenge it) – consequently, when you do not perform a critical investigation of the human nature for being convinced that you can properly evaluate them. If you debar yourself of such investigation, you will suppress any enthusiasm to height of your leadership.

Leaders do not take decisions until they do not see the final "picture". If we jump directly to conclusions before knowing the facts, we will miss the point. We could never establish relationships if we are not trying to understand the essential that people incorporate it into their harmonious system of beliefs and representation of their reality.

Just as a beginner football player can achieve a great degree of mastery in applying all the technical execution by constant and well-dosed exercises, so you can achieve a degree of mastery in leadership if you develop the ability to truly understand the human reality in its complexion.

Perform a critical investigation of the human nature for being convinced that you can properly evaluate them. Evaluate people without losing sight of "the light" that surrounds them.


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