Neculai Fântânaru

Everything Depends on Who Leads

And Now, Say Goodbye To Me !

On March 08, 2017
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Leadership eX-Elite by Neculai Fantanaru

Form a true picture of the reality that chains you by evaluating your character to the extent that your negative "qualities" deceive you.

- Enough ! – Mercedes said – enough, Edmond ! Be sure that the one who could recognize you, the only one in the world, she could also understand you. But Edmond, the woman who knew how to recognize you, the one who could understand you, this woman, even if you met her on the way and broke her like a piece of glass, she had to admire you ! As the gap between me and the past grew as a chasm, and there is a chasm between you and other people, and the worst torment for me, I tell you, is to make a comparison. For there is nothing in the world as valuable as you, nothing resembles you.

And now, say goodbye to me, Edmond, and let us break up.

- Before I leave you, tell me what you want, Mercedes? – asked Monte Cristo.

- I do not need anything. I live between two tombs: one belongs to Edmond Dantes, dead for so long. I loved him. But I betrayed him, as all weak, envious and pretentious people do. The word does not fit on my lips, but the heart still remembers for nothing in the world I would lose this memory of my heart. The other is the tomb of the man Edmond Dantes killed. I approve of the killing, but I have to pray for the dead.

You know, Edmond, I do not think anymore. I have no choice other than to not make any other decision. God has shaken me so much in his storms that I have lost my will. I feel in his hands like a bird in the claws of an eagle. If I live, it means He does not want me to die, but is rather giving me the opportunity to repent. If He sends me help, it means that He shall will it and I will receive them. Goodbye, I ask for forgiveness, even if forgiveness will never be complete, because I can never forgive the deeds that I am guilty of ! *

Is the attitude to what you have done through your nature to be modeled in the form of the moral that is drawn from the outcome of your life?

A turn in your life, summing up all the works done by your own will, can occur when you come to perceive and acknowledge in yourself the image of an unforgivable guilt. Resistance to what is essential in your being, consisting in overcoming the limits of everything that is rational, natural, and common sense, is shaken under accusation in a process of memory that evokes the reality of the soul in the course of certain previous experiences.

A lawyer knows exactly what to say and how to say it so that the balance tilts in favor of the cause he defends for his client. However, in order to clarify the fact that the extent of the theme and the diversity of the established objectives are not in accordance with the law, he finds himself having to use many various tricks to win the trial.

In the great journey of life, man can be like a lawyer who, in an attempt to better manage his relationships, feels constantly constrained to defend the cause of his own vicious and fatalist nature. Basically, he puts himself in the face of direct decisions that have a direct impact on his own subjectivity, then on his own dignity expressed by the following recurring saying: "I am a burden of guilt."

What can push a man on the right path is a profound assumption of reality that produces overwhelming effects on what he is able to become when he discovers about himself what he did not know before.

Naturally, man questions himself, corrects himself by the intuition of the process of achieving arguments that support his moral weight. He often preserves his candor and innocence by observing and directly or indirectly understanding the effects of certain actions on his life. He swears that he will be another man from now on. Could this be an attenuating circumstance? In any case, he will always have other spare apologies.

That’s right, man always avoids blame. And when a man avoids blame, it means that he either feels guilty, or is lying to himself. Of course, that the lie, as well as the guilt that man experiences with intensity, that he feels with all the power of consciousness, that he takes with him, while attempting a last act of escape in the face of reality, cannot be only the result of a rebellion against the demands of life. When you feel guilty about a deed that lying cannot cover, so when lying becomes a common practice, then it is a personality disorder that causes very intense moods, instability in relationships and creating a black and white worldview.

Leadership is the painful truth that you find out about yourself and that you prefer instead of a beautiful lie that currently gives you a quality roof.

And Now, Say Goodbye To Me is a testimony of the suffering suffered by man because of an inexcusable mistake. You cannot avoid the blame indefinitely without bearing the consequences of the truth.

If you are interested in forming a true picture of the reality that chains you, then evaluate your character insofar as your own negative "qualities" deceive you. Be honest and give yourself the verdict by answering the following questions:

How do you perceive yourself by avoiding the gravity of a situation or a deed? Are you willing to accept the extreme anxiety of situations where the outcome can be difficult or embarrassing?



* Note: Alexandre Dumas - The Count of Monte Cristo, Youth Publishing House, 1957.

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