Know That Money Is Of No Importance To Me !

To measure your character through the prism of the experiences of others, means to separate suffering from happiness, respectively to reconnect them later in a coherence of the entire complexity of the “time pressure” phenomenon.

- My friend is dying. He lives only for this supreme hope. To destroy it means to destroy their existence. A true crime. Banish that thought? Helpless. He wants to get married with all his heart. He clings to marriage with that stubbornness specific only to children and the dying. My friendship clashes terribly with my love. I feel it is almost a criminal act to deny a poor dying soul the happiness that harms no one in this world, but would help him go with a smile to the next world.

- You are good, said Frédérique, touched by the accent with which Samuel pronounced these generous words.

- But I’m not thinking of Julius in the first place, Samuel resumed, but of you. This marriage will suddenly bring you a wealth of millions and make your beauty, your intelligence, your generous heart take on a greater luster than you could have hoped for in your wildest dreams. Do I have the right to deprive you of a future crowned with splendor? Can I hate him because I love you? Only one who curses love consents to impoverish the woman he loves; I wouldn’t want you to curse me.

- Do not be afraid, my friend, answered Frédérique. You know me too well to know that I don’t care about money. I don’t know what I could do with the wealth. Raised in solitude, I didn’t need anything and luxury would get me into big trouble. So don’t be afraid that I could ever reproach you for depriving me of the opportunity to get rich. If Herr Count von Eberbach were poor, and if I did not need to relieve his suffering in the last days of his existence, I could regret that I am not free. But if it comes to money, I am happy to prove to you that between riches and you, I would never prefer riches.

Leadership: Are you able to accept yourself from the perspective of a suffering to which you are obliged to submit, in such a way that the ability to see a new face of reality becomes possible?

One of the difficulties encountered by most people who fail to get close to each other, emotionally and empathically, an attempt that often gives them real headaches, seems closely related to the deep aspects of their psycho-emotional structure. More precisely, the failure of their attempt to merge under the same ideal, bearing any difference between them, is attributed to the phenomenon called by psychologists “affective dependence”.

In fact, dependence is present in any relationship, in addition to love and other types of interests, especially in the case of those who do not see eye to eye (the primary ingredient in a relationship being attraction), and sometimes it is precisely this dependence that transforms the glorious beginning of a couple in a dramatic ending.

We can find examples of change that facilitate the rapprochement between people everywhere, but on the condition that you train yourself to seek first of all “the Kingdom of God and His righteousness”, that truth capable of enlightening you, which can heal you of any mistrust, which will cancel out the raw feeling you have because of a perception of your partner’s behavior.

In fact, in a relationship, the “kingdom of God” resembles that model of reality that transcends individual existences, that transcends the horizon of the Ego conditioned by a superior motivation (respectively by the desire to gain), or depends on an inferiority arising from the lack of altruistic and moral sensibility, which you are forced to endure.

Leadership is the empathic recognition you give in exchange for the status of “good Christian” (not victim in a relationship), who must face what he fears the most: the reproach of being one-sided. In leadership you will face the suffering caused by your inability to empathize with people who worry, so who are hypersensitive to negative emotions.

The moment you learn and manage to change your attitude about yourself, through great zeal and confession with a broken heart, through repentance, through forgiveness, through the review of your own life, then God takes care of all other things. Your main goal must be the search for true values – wisdom, knowledge and piety, then the need or desire to exchange qualities with someone else who can complete you on various levels.

Know That Money Is Of No Importance To Me, not even if you challenge me to be your confidant. Such is the message conveyed by Alexandre Dumas in the excerpt above, considering that everything that makes you feel good, everything that inspires you, what you’re passionate about, what causes you joy, depends largely on the ability your ability to empathize with the thinking of other people, with their frustrations, with their sufferings, with their needs, without considering yourself a victim of the circumstances (which you could not foresee and whose removal is not up to you).

Blogger Dmitri Gorobic said it well: “We both have qualities of the same value. If the qualities are identical then we get bored of each other quite quickly, if they are different (but in sum they have the same value) then it is better. In fact, I wanted to get to this point from the start. When between us there is this process of sale – purchase where qualities are the product and love is the currency of payment, and especially if they are of the same value, we can easily equate to remove the “currency”, that is, love, from this exchange, and to produce only the exchange of goods, better said, of qualities.”