Mr. Finch’s Faithful Companion
Try to recognize in time the essence of your true nature as to not definitively blur the mood of people you interact with.
This time, I want to introduce you to Mr. Gavin Finch, from the movie "Flawless (2007)". He deals with the investigation into the disappearance of diamonds from London Diamond Corporation, the number one in the world at that time on its business sector.
Whenever we meet Mr. Finch, this professional lacking any trace of "soft tissue", we are completely stricken with intolerance and lacing any positive stimuli that could mobilize our reactions. We enter his atmosphere like in a dark and well locked room, where only a vague and relative existence can be perceived.
During Mr. Finch’s investigation, every individual is treated as a potential criminal. From place to place, this very rare form of feeling, whose insulating properties increase their density and tighten like after a thunderstorm, a form of zigzag movement that warns any employee of the company. Any healthy breath in the company vanishes as soon as the night shifts.
Only slowly we get used to this form of professional conduct carried to its climax. Because Mr. Finch is deliberately shrouded in some kind of obscurity. It can be described only by some shaded contours that blur the mood of everyone he interacts with.
Leadership has as its main determinant a particular situation which is not determined univocally by the prism of a typical situation, but by the possibility of a change of situation from “Disappointment of Ego” to “Defeat of Ego”.
But the end of the movie brings into focus another unique attribute of Mr. Finch, revealing the dark side of his personality. When the main suspect, Laura Quinn, finds the diamonds with a game of plans and counteraplans, Mr. Finch is touched by the holy light, by the luminous radiation of his own and true nature.
A hero of Alexandre Dumas was right when he said: "The pride of our poor human nature makes everyone believe himself more unhappy than another unfortunate weeping and moaning with him."
Seeing the tears accompanied by Laura Quinn’s guilt, something inside him lights up, refuses to comply with the shaded space. This bright feeling is revealed by the expression of his face, dumbfounded as if he saw the goddess of goodness touching him with the inspiring rod, sending her force of action. This vivid light thrown at him complements what is not seen, his inner void.
The ego that makes you judge and feel a certain emotion when you are in the face of a rather confusing situation is a “must have” when granting an unconditional forgiveness.
When Laura Quinn tries to confess, only then the manifestation of this Mephisto turned into angel is best seen, taking place in its great splendor. The emotional warmth that she radiates almost moistens even his eyes, the mask of stiffness falling from his face – and only now his image is worthy of being remembered. Finch is no longer the tough, cold cop, but rather an understanding, merciful man, whose Ego is based on the attention received from the sincerity of the grieving woman, finding relevance in small gestures.
His heart opens. Like snowdrops in a hurry, the innermost parts of his being want to come to light and spread spring-like flavored essence. The subtle fluid that dwells deep into his soul begins to thrive, to radiate like in a deep darkness. He cannot remain totally faithful to his dominant-negative nature, but is forced to give a new shape to his sphere of action tangent to his maximum change point.
All seem new and old in life, braided into a single string: myself. The man meets his true self.
Is your acceptance of being emotionally equal to others viewed as a moral obligation, or as a choice to “correct your own wrong becoming” in a context of character vulnerability called “serenity”?
The “serenity” on which the character of a high quality person depends is manifested by a strong affection or a strong need to save someone, a strong desire to form and maintain attachment relationships.
Do you keep in mind those positive stimuli that may activate your transformation? Is your leadership closely related to a form of professional conduct carried to climax? Can your personality be described only by shaded contours? Does your personality blur the mood of those whom you interact with?
I remember what the French writer Honore de Balzac once said: "Great men need inferior people more often than it is thought."
One of the main conditions imposed by leadership, which is to acquire the qualities of a truly great man, is to give free reign to the hidden side of your personality, to collect your own baggage of positive traits so as to cancel any negative effects that you will deliberately bear.
This idea can be expressed by the phrase: "Keep the dog away from those stimuli that trigger his barking." If your leadership suffers a great loss, this is because your inner companion directly or indirectly hampers the good quality of relationships with others –the force of the eagerly calling to say "Yes" to any excess of power, the decision to deny your beliefs that can ensure your stability and continuity professionally and socially, but also personally.
To owe yourself the sincerity and full assumption of the role of someone who is a good listener and understanding in any conflict situation, has as its substrate the attempt to transform the vulnerability of its character into a source of power.
Leadership is given by your self-image, which you decide to represent you professionally, be it embarrassing or pleasant. Find in the light of your own wisdom all necessary resources to give you the strength to act in accordance with the "lines" that you get inside your heart. Stop any excesses. Leave the deepest parts of your being to come to light and spread spring-like flavor essence. Give new shape to your sphere of action, which is tangent to your maximum transformation point.
How long can you stay faithful to your negative nature? Can you condition your dog to stop barking or do you encourage him to bark at every passerby?
Is your effort to be understanding worthwhile only because it is very possible to be interpreted as a proof of innocence in the face of the challenge called: “a momentary impulse marked by the conditioning of high emotional intensity”?
Rather than accepting a negative dominance on your personality, I propose something "lighter": getting out of this provincial monotony against oneself, which is also the basis of ineffective leadership or even its utter destruction, directly contributing to the formation of that "left force" – the people you cherish, with whom you could band to save what little light is left in you.
Someone confessed on Facebook: "I learned that the real treasures of a man aren’t those inside his house, but those inside his soul."
When you measure with others in an attempt to somewhat be greater than them, you become increasingly poor, something rebels against you, something inside you instantly breaks, like pressing a button. And when you lose a part of yourself, you also lose a part of the influence that you could have on them.
Leadership highlights the experience of examining yourself in terms of an attitude that differentiates between what you experience through the consequences of your choices and what you experience in terms of a sense of belonging to a noble cause.
Mr. Finch’s faithful companion highlights the effect of accepting a negative dominance on personality, resulting in disapproval of themselves and their own identity, which may lead to failure. The contribution you bring to achieving the foundation of your way of being leads to failure. The contribution you bring to achieving the foundation of your way of being reflects in the lives of those around you.
Do you let yourself be enslaved by the bad influence of your negative side from the perimeter of a shaded area? With what do you fill what is not seen (your inner void) to raise your self-esteem? Do you stay true to your negative nature?
Try to recognize in time the essence of your true nature as to not definitively blur the mood of people you interact with.
