Establish a connection with people's hearts, without hiding who you really are.
Bill Parrish, founder and president of Parrish Communications Corporation, was a man whose character can deeply impress everyone, a very educated man, well-informed and with a rich life experience. He had to use all his strengths to exercise influence on Joe Black, that was in love with his daughter, Susan, and whom he wanted to take with him in the kingdom of darkness.
In order that his point of view to influence Joe’s decision, Bill had to prove to him that he is right. He told Joe:
- You can take whatever you want because it pleases you. But that's not love. It’s aimless infatuation which, for the moment, you feel like indulging - it's missing everything that matters. Trust, responsibility, taking the weight for your choices and feelings, and spending the rest of your life living up to them. And above all, not hurting the object of your love.
You say you love my daughter, but you don't know what love is. She “loves” you; she doesn't know who you are. Susan went for that poor son of a bitch whose body you took. But she does not know who you really are.
Does she love you? Who are you? Did you tell her who you are? Does she know here she's going? Why do not you tell her? Try. See what happens.
Leadership: Can you insert an image into an emotional message so that the message is part of an inner rational determination that is consistent with objectivity?
Do you remember the movie „Meet Joe Black (1998)”? Immediately, after that Bill stopped talking, Joe Black‘s attitude has changed. He was ridden by presentiments. While he reflected at the words of Bill, the darkest thoughts haunted his mind, starting to grind him. A light broke in his mind, while in his heart was insisting disorder. Suddenly, he realized that his existence had become empty, so empty that it appears to no longer make sense.
If there was any doubt about his individuality, all Susan's confidence in him would be wasted. For a pure soul, perfect, how could she accept as a partner the “Prince of Darkness” by himself? At the end of the movie, Joe Black gives up Susan, realizing that she could never accept him in her life if she would have found out who he really is.
In order to establish strong links based on mutual understanding and trust means to fill in the hearts of people the place that you must have it, that you deserve and which you consider correct. Their perception of you must be not only good, but also according to their personality, to their own values, their own expectations, and with their own ideals. As a leader, you must manage to close in the hearts of people the feeling of a favorable agreement to eliminate the possibility of any conflict. They should feel a total safety, an absolute peace, in order to make common cause with you.
Do not give people the opportunity to meet you, is to raise an insurmountable obstacle between you and them. Do not turn your leadership into an insurmountable fortification. For, the one who builds up before him an insurmountable fortification, cuts all ties with others around him. Continue your way to the hearts of people in a confident way, leaving place for their right to know you, and their attempt to get closer to you, to attach to you for what you really are.
To insert an image into an emotional message is to impose the particular, in which you incarnate as a “projection of sensitivity”, where there is no positive reaction to change.
The Good Soul From The Kingdom Of Darkness symbolizes that good part of yourself that you have not managed to show other people around you, despite the benevolent intentions. In vain, you want to establish links if you fail to fit in the well-defined pattern of others. In order to bridge the gap between you and the others, it is necessary for your inner beauty to be shown to good advantage, and to comply with their own beliefs and desires.
Just as the manual focus on digital cameras can be best achieved by handling the rubber ring on the lens – in the same way developing your relations with others can be best occurred by “handling” their own experiences and inner aspirations, removing their doubts, behaving according to their own feelings and focusing yourself on their convictions. Establish a connection with people's hearts, without hiding who you really are.
Conclusion: Knowledge of people is very important to be able to lead them on the right track. Let yourself be known by others, be open, and do not hide behind some lies about your person.
In vain, you have a good heart if it is hidden in the “kingdom of darkness”. Mutual knowledge generates links between people, underlying on effective cooperation and mutual assistance. Do not turn your own self into an insurmountable fortification, as in this way you will remove people from you. Be open, be honest and fair, and you will have the support of people, support that any leader has great need.