Neculai Fântânaru

Everything Depends on Who Leads

The Inverted Mirror Of Words

On February 11, 2022
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Leadership FX-Intensive by Neculai Fantanaru

Thoughts once released no longer belong to the creator, but become mirrors for others, outlining meanings that escape the original consciousness.

I received a letter from someone who had read my texts. He had understood the exact opposite of what I wanted to convey – and yet his interpretation was deeper than my intention. I was speechless at my own words.

On the desk, the paper smelling of dried ink trembled slightly in the yellow morning light. I opened the letter with no expectations, only that familiar mixture of curiosity and fear that any author feels when his words come back to him, carried by others. As I read, I realized that that man had seen in my text a world that I had not put there. Or worse, I had unknowingly put it on.

His every sentence sounded like an overturned mirror, in which I no longer recognized myself, but which I could not contradict. It was as if someone had read into me deeper than I had read myself. This was no mere misunderstanding. It was a revelation. Maybe the meaning is never in what you write, but in what opens between the words. Perhaps the truth only emerges when you lose yourself in it. Then I said to myself: "Words do not belong to us. We let them go and they begin to speak the truth to others. Thoughts once freed no longer belong to the creator, but become mirrors for others."

Are you willing to accept different perspectives on how you manifest your thoughts in order to find an authentic way to guide people on the arduous path of ascension?

A vision cannot take root without concrete efforts to confirm its authenticity. Martin Luther King Jr. was a Baptist priest who wanted with all his heart the fulfillment of the biblical principles of life and freedom. He understood that Americans are lucky to have been born in that great land, and that there is no other nation like it on earth. Here is what he said in his speech on August 28, 1963, on the occasion of the march to Washington:

"I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character."

These words are pure gold. They inspired all the color population in America. Only a man with strong convictions, who has a dream and completely devotes himself to fulfilling it can speak some words with such great influence. Only a man motivated to fulfill his ideal and who looks for ways to build bridges between people can guide them on the difficult road of upswing. Martin Luther King Jr. was certainly a leader with an incredible power of influence.

In fact, Martin Luther King Jr.'s speech shows that how you formulate and materialize your thoughts—through clear choices of ideas and values—can transform words into tools of representation and influence for an entire community.

Leadership creates the framework in which a visionary utterance can produce and amplify its resonant effects.

Whom and how do you make your influence? First of all, leadership requires influence and not everyone has a high enough ability to make an influence. In real life, the higher the position a man takes in society, the higher his level of influence.

What would you like more: to rule or to be ruled? If your greatest ambition is to be in a dominant position, then extend your level of influence. Your success will greatly depend on the success of the people you lead. Your influence will be the greatest if their success will be the greatest.

Leadership: Can you achieve clarity of vision without training your gaze to remain clear in the face of moral compromise?

Just as a teacher is always judged by the results of his students, you will be judged by the results obtained by the people you lead. The justice of a social vision requires the same precision as an optical correction – small deviations become major mistakes over time.

If you hold a leadership position, don't forget that the problems people have to deal with are always your problems, as well. You won't be able to have a positive influence over people if you don't get involved in solving the problems they have to deal with, leaving everything to chance, thinking that it is only their job to solve them.

In leadership, peripheral vision matters – what you ignore can eventually become what brings you down.

The Inverted Mirror Of Words represents the leader's moment of maximum vulnerability and authenticity, when his vision penetrates beyond the superficial barriers of the audience's identity. I say this because a speech like King's did not impose a reality, but released a truth that already existed in people's hearts, transforming words from mere tools of communication into spaces of collective discovery.

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