Neculai Fantanaru

Everything Depends On The Leader

Be An Exceptional Player

On June 16, 2009
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Leadership and Attitude by Neculai Fantanaru

Rise up to the height of your potential in order to find an echo in the minds and souls of those around you.

We live in a world governed by principles. Principles of collegiality, devotion, honor, mutual respect, trust, which we discover in time, not suddenly, not the first time when we meet all kinds of people, and not just in tough moments when we are forced to ask help from a friend, a colleague, a parent or a brother.

Yes. All the principles which guide us in life, which we sometimes try to follow as strictly as possible in our activities, which we talk about in articles and often preach during seminars and conferences, between customers and employees - are very valuable, but unfortunately, sometimes are very difficult to put into practice.

We strive to be better, we make the greatest efforts, we do our best, we fight until the last drop, and we finally discover, with much bitterness, that everything was in vain, that nothing we have done or dreamed or what we tried to achieve did not materialize; everything remained almost unchanged: the same habits - only fewer, the same results – only a bit different from usual, the same guilt, the same reproaches, the same irony from all. Where did we go wrong? What does the future reserve us? Is it still worth to respect any principle at all?

Leadership: Can you engage in crossing certain experiences from which you can extract meaning about yourself, about others, about life, without putting yourself at the forefront of superiority that eliminates any potential weak point?

On Sunday, I went to play football with my friends. As always, the same rule: "Ten minutes or two goals", and, as usual, five or six teams were waiting on the side to enter on the field. My team was also waiting. While we were looking how the team before us was playing, I couldn't help noticing, as well as everybody else, the weak and vacillating game of one of the players on the field. You don't need to be a genius to see if a person knows how to play football or not, even a little bit.

Well, that guy had nothing to do with this sport at all. Simply, every time he was receiving the ball, he was losing it to the adversary in the next second; every time someone from his team was telling him to stay in defense, he seemed to purposely attack; he did not intercept a passed ball by opponents, did no dispossession and no recovery, he didn't do anything, absolutely nothing, and, overall, he scored an auto-goal, which caused the other teammates to no longer give him a pass. And at the end of the day, after so many games lost, he was asked, kindly, as from that day onward, to find another team, more suitable for him.

Was it worth or not this change of plans? Was it a right decision, the correct one? The boy was very ambitious and gave his best to play well - he ran from side to side of the field many times, even more than everybody, he asked for the ball, he was there to receive it, trying to show the other teammates that he is involved in the game, but with what use? His attempt failed. No team wants a poor player, this is the cruel truth.

Your belonging to a team is like dice thrown at random: you never know what’s going to come out, but you certainly cannot "order" a six-six that will allow you easy access to a new positioning in terms of one side of the dice.

The reasoning of a coach is divided into two inversely proportional parts. First is the result of a strong emotional manifestation where its decisions affect the validity of adaptation perspectives in a tough environment, which is a confirmation of the too high tolerance shown for any deviations, a weakness that returns safely against it. Then there is the tendency of thinking in terms of superiority, which categorically rejects any weakness.

The leader is the kind of team captain who experiences the ascendant or descendant trends of his teammates from the secondary resources of a reasoning that will use any weak point and any mistake as a useful personal development tool. Basically, a leader chooses to behave first as an agent of the reflection of others in his area of action, and only afterwards as a coach.

Leadership: Can you adjust your positioning to the immediate challenges of your integration into a value recognition area, without denying your belonging to a minority that maintains a medium altitude?

Who makes mistakes too often will no longer receive passing on the field and will be disfavored. The lack of professionalism of a player is quickly noticed by teammates and, in the end, they either exclude him from the team or he will self-exclude. You can work hard and well, you can make an effort, giving everything you can, you can try to create a good impression to the other teammates, to move left, right, raise your hands, to create the feeling you're useful and indispensable, but if they do not see any progress, any positive change in your style of play, a notable result, it no longer remains a lot to say. The others team members will seek a replacement for you and you will be removed from the team.

But let's be honest. Isn't the team entitled to seek other team member, one which plays decent at least, which does not cause any problems, which can easily integrated into their game style? In the end, why would they choose to lose, what would be the point to join a competition knowing that, due to one of the teammates, the fate of each match will be sealed anyway? Aren't we all seeking the victory, to feel the taste of success, even if only for a moment? To be happy that we did a good job and that all the time that we invested in the game, all our efforts, was worth, and finally did materialize in extraordinary result.

Each member of a team must focus on certain tasks that need to be met with success; otherwise the effort will not be efficient. The better you work, the more proof of professionalism and seriousness you give, the more easily you will gain the respect and trust of others, which will become more closer to you and they will start to appreciate you unconditionally, at your true value. Moreover, they will praise your excellent qualities, they will respect you, they will love you and will recommend you to others, in any way they will not get rid of you, no, it will never happen. Nobody in the team has any interest to remove a man of value, which may contribute to obtain a leading position in the ranking.

Leadership is the arbitrary value you assign to a football match whose outcome counts less than the players’ loyalty to their captain.

Be An Exceptional Player by controlling the coach’s decisions in terms of the validity of emotional behavior and self-perception from the perspective of a viewer who is analyzing a match without emotional implications. Then try to rise to the height of your potential so that you can find an echo in the mind and soul of those around you.

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