Neculai Fântânaru

Everything Depends on Who Leads

Tell me, have I thought of everything?

On March 28, 2008
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Leadership R2-Premiere by Neculai Fantanaru

Form a new perception of what it meant to be honest, without making yourself a kind of irresponsible person ready to throw everything overboard.

- So his recovery continues? And Mr. Samuel Gelb?

- Mr. Samuel Gelb believes that, for now, one cannot wish for anything better. He only fears for autumn.

- If he gets sick again in the fall, said Frederique, we will be there and take care of him, both of us, in such a way that we will save him this time too, right?

- Yes, of course, answered the young man; if he only needs care to live, it means he is healthier than us.

- We'll take care of him. But why did we have to separate? asked Frederique.

- Well, in this regard, he was completely right, the lover escapes.

- It's not true, it was wrong, she continued, and I was wrong to agree. I should not have parted with him, when he needed me to make him smile, to bring around him the gaiety that is half health. You can call me vain if you like, but I think your uncle needed someone young, some movement to refresh him, and I'm sure it would have done him good to be able to look at me. And then, I agreed to live here on the condition that I see him every day. But he did not keep his promise. He doesn't come even once a week. And they keep me locked up here under the pretext that I'm sick, while, on the contrary, I've never felt better. But this situation can no longer last. Starting today I made a decision.

Is the means of proof in the process of recognizing one's own value, by one of the parties, constituted by the facts or circumstances on which the other party bases its claims or defenses?

- What decision? Lothario asks uneasily. I thought the plan was simple: you will see the rich count, even if he is sick or healthy, so that he will think you love him, and so the inheritance will go to you. This even if the human value is given by the ability to think beyond thinking, and to fall in love beyond love, because the rest are just price lists, as Octav Bibere said. And you must be aware that through a minimal gesture of involvement you can significantly contribute to the improvement of a person's life.

- Yes, I made a plan, continued Frederique, and from now on, Mr. Count and I, even staying in different houses, if it pleases him, we will see each other every day. Listen, it's very simple: I will spend two days in a row there, having dinner in Paris, and on the third day, the Count will come to spend the day and have dinner here. In this way I will go to him twice, and he will see me every day without tiring too much. Did I plan well, tell me? Have I thought of everything?

- To all, except me, answered Lothario sullenly.

- Sure! I thought about you too, said the girl. According to my plan we will see each other more often. When the count comes to Enghien, you will accompany him. When I go to Paris, you will dine at your uncle's. Thus you will see me daily and not just for an hour on the run, but as much as you want; and don't tire yourself so much running on the roads.

- Yes, said Lothario, still sullen, I will win by walking less and I will only see you in public.

Can you find a way to symbolically represent the inner world of the man you put in antithesis with "previous individuations", in order to improve his ability to respond to external demands?

The previous individualizations of man aim to reveal those emotions and convictions, visions and character traits that cause him to react in a certain way in a given case. And not only that. Determining the individualizations with the help of the beliefs that are the basis of the life scenario that the man constantly materializes in an exposition of reasons, with an undisguised verve, and the manner in which he reveals his emotions in a case of superiority (or inferiority), can to highlight certain character traits that make up his happiness or unhappiness.

And the external requirements are the influencing factors that contribute to the change in the decision-making process, representing the totality of the characteristics capable of defining and quantifying the achievement of the proposed goal. They are the premise of a concordance between the objective truth (not interpretive) and the exploration of the real world, between justice (as a concept of interhuman life) and judicial justice, enshrined in a definitive judicial decision.

The young woman began to laugh.

- Well, she said. If you are tired of traveling, and if you are not tired of talking face to face with the count, you will sometimes be allowed, if you prove wise for eight days, to come and take me from here or bring me in the evening, you on horseback, I in the carriage. Do you understand, my dear nephew? So it's going to be great?

And the naive child clapped her hands in delight. Then continue:

- You saw, maliciously jealous, that everything can be arranged and that you don't have to be afraid of women's opinions. what do you say You are pleased?

- You are incomparable, Lothario said happily.

Leadership aims at the true face of man that expresses feelings, anxieties, conflicts, through an overlap with the other face that he hides from the world's view, the meaning of which we can only decipher through a memory signed by Victor Hugo:

"The soul helps the body and sometimes even lifts it from the ground, being the only bird that carries its cage."

Tell Me, Have I Thought of Everything? Yes, Frederique, you planned everything well, but you did not take into account two aspects of providence: everything can change at any time, and everything that does not contain affection does not last. Well said Gonzales: "A person is valuable when his words coincide with his actions." And, I would add something from Einstein's memoirs: "If you want to understand a person, don't listen to his words, but rather observe his behavior."



* Note: Alexandre Dumas - The Hand of Providence, Alutus Publishing House, 1993

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