The Law Of Attachment

Attach yourself to people who can make you a better man, and you will find permanently emotional support in them.

A scene from the movie " The Count of Monte Cristo (2002)", which I saw again last night, has remained strongly stuck in my mind. The Count remains alone with Jacopo, his faithful companion, in his golden chariot, after he denies Mercedes, his former girlfriend. He grabs him by the coat, looks him in the eye and says to him, with the determination of the man that nobody and nothing can deviate from his goal:

- If you intend one more time to interfere with my business, I promise, I swear I'll kill you.

Jacopo did not react. He looks at the Count with bitterness. He understood the words hat betrayed a bad conscience, knowing well what is happening in his soul. Then he says to him, unable to control his emotion:

- You have a fortune, a beautiful woman who loves you. Take the money, the woman and live your life. Forget about this plan of revenge. Take what you have won… I am still your companion. I swore I will protect you and I intend to keep my promise, even if I have to protect you from yourself.

Do you believe that the unseen processes that have shaped you are enough for your merit to be recognized in the way you assume your role in a dominant position?

The dominant position you adopt in an unequal exchange of opinions and impressions, based on the optimization of the experience-knowledge relationship, allows the evaluation of a starting point of a vision between the feedback you send in order to observe what it is that you actually need to change the feedback you receive so you do not forget to reflect on what you did not expect to see in yourself.

In your background runs a command of the type: "I shouldn’t listen to anyone" or a command of the type: "I need to know the truth that can free me from myself ! "?

A heart enchained by other people opens only to a true friend. The Count of Monte Cristo, although he was always surrounded by the society people, he only trusted in one man, Jacopo. His words, said with good intentions, pierced his heart of steel, chasing sorrow and that bitter taste of vengeance and suffering from his soul.

Is your level of leadership continued by responding to the feedback received, from which the immediate recognition of your authority to act in the name of your own truth derives?

Your level of leadership can imply an interpretation of an exploratory conclusion based on facts and hypotheses from which derives either the immediate recognition of your authority to act in the name of your own truth or the challenge to your ability to meet the requirements of a role of a guarantor of change.

Only a true friend takes part wholeheartedly to your misfortune and is at your disposal for any of your needs. Only a being that you placed higher than any other human beings can manage, using all possible means, to give meaning to your life.

The famous Abbe Prevost was quite right when he said: " Nothing is more admirable and doesn't value virtue more than the trust with which you knock at the gate of a man's heart, whose honest character you know."

Jacopo's Christian impetus, or maybe his gentle compassion, or his convincing advice attenuated the Count's thoughts of revenge, refreshed a little his frigid heart, causing that sense of emptiness and pain he was seized to the bone to disappear. Jacopo's warm words had a notable influence in the Count's life who, at the end of the movie, reconciled with Mercedes and got back to his life after the original ordinance.

A truth that does not save inevitably leads to the glory of vanity, made up of regrets and hostility.

The attachment to someone you hold dear broadens your horizon and gives you back your optimism. Everything in leadership is closely related to your relationship with other people. The most valuable evidence of a true friend is the warmth of his feelings. Jacopo's constant presence near him, as well as his love for Mercedes, removed the Count's hostile intentions. The Count had great need of this man, who gave him a valuable advice at the right time, a last resource of life, healing the wounds of his soul.

The attachment for someone springs from deep inside you and amplifies your aura that protects you of yourself and the obstacles of life. Nothing can stop you change but yourself, but a friend who cares for you and which you feel attached to can read deep inside your soul and can give you that undefined impulse you badly need to strengthen your spirit and enlighten your life perspective.

Leadership is how you control your reactions in moments of emotional tension and choose to respond firmly to anything that goes against your values.

Conclusion: The leader is a man with thoughts and feelings, as well. And, just like any man, he needs emotional support and listened to, needs to share his anxieties, fears and hopes to someone.

Who should be most fit to play this role? Certainly, only a true friend. And, as a great Romanian doctor said, "If you found a true friend, you should keep his soul with steel hooks."