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Everything Depends on Who Leads

The Relationship Between Myself And The Parallel Universe

On June 16, 2013
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Leadership On/Off by Neculai Fantanaru

Give shape and substance to your current reality without reaching an change in limits that can affect your functional structure.

I had the painful feeling of belonging to a parallel time zone, set according to the vision of a director that had removed the word "barriers" from his vocabulary. My own past intertwined with my future – the condition of real existence of a mysterious character, somewhat fantastic, who favored the ascendant trajectory of my evolution. And this evolution was in certain ways placed under a lack of consensus between more of my own opinions, which contradicted and excluded each other.

It was just a habit of mine to transpose myself in a different time, different Universe, in the middle of other places; in that invincible virtual reality that overcomes the sensational. Unbothered by any disturbing factors, I was crossing a white, continuous space that at the same time was ever-changing and hard to understand. A sign of fake science? Here lay the greatest mystery of art? And the white spaces between two support points were, for me, like a brain death, but also like a resurrection of the soul. I had the feeling that I could see and live everything, long before the inevitable happened.

I isolated myself completely from one world, only to enter in another. The result of this imaginative process made me guilty in front of a respective court of justice: the impossible. I was trapped in the illusion area. The degree of incorporation in the coordinate system of a new location where I was venturing, reached beyond any limits, it reached the absurd. That raised a justified fear in me: "how long will I maintain myself on this line of judgment that I have tried to map out here? When will I detach from it?

The mastery of leadership is seen when you have all the strengths of a game that others can not play.

I didn’t fully understand why some spaces attracted me so much, a quick vibration with a high pitch, and the quintessence of an experience that raises an absolute delight. But the need to come back and to station in these incomprehensible places, inaccurately laid out on the map of ordinary minds, in just a few moment’s time, it was one of those primordial ones. And without satisfying it, I could not be happy. But this journey into the unknown and unexplored lands couldn’t have lasted forever.

Surely I was experiencing the same feeling as one of John Fowles’ characters when he had bought the farm, Thorncombe. The need to have that place, to fully possess it came somehow from the depths of my subconscious; all the other consciously reasonable reasons were on a secondary plan.

Simultaneously, the resistance and obedience in front of a more likely metaphysical authority gave shape and substance to my current reality. But I could no longer keep up with the updates of my perspectives in light of a surreal world. I was overloaded with a substance that didn’t work with limits. As fast as possible, I had to deactivate this attraction field and renounce this échange de limites that could have seriously affected the structured called "Myself".

The game I played was a kind of combination between the hiding of one’s own world that has reached its limits and the experiencing of novelty from the perspective of faith in an ideal of authenticity understood as a penetration into a reality that omits its temporary dimension (being questioned).

Are you aware that the option of inventing yourself as a fictional work is the first step towards defeating an Ego who would want to grow unchecked, at all times, and also in terms of an unknown reality?

Do you hide from the world and close yourself in another? Do you have the feeling you can see and live everything long before the inevitable happened? How long can you stand the journey into the unknown and unexplored lands?

I don’t think it’s necessary to research the real direction of leadership through the analysis of this positive variable that brings a maximum contribution to the foundamenting of what could become a paradigm of thought. But I believe I can reach a syntesis of the principles of acknowledgement, that have resulted from an analysis of only one existential chapter, that has at its core the rethinking of structure and the way of funtioning of an individual subject to his own reason.

The beloning of the individual to his own identity, the only one able to stir up decisive arguments for a new direction, all the diverse, multiple and complex aspects of ageing, all the worries, troubles, contradictions, hopes and dreams – are summed up in a secondary analisys that centers on the actual plan of his existance.

And this plan has to be referential and applicable in all that is related to his person, in all the patterns of his thinking in order for leadership to become more important on the process of his becoming, thus favoring the ascendant trajectory of his evolution.

The universe that you carefully build in your imagination is a consequence of the experiences gained by the desperation to escape from the harsh reality of a present that leads nowhere and amplifies disappointment.

Here, the question that the international expert John Maxwell once uttered is very welcome: "Do you enter a realm and linger there?" This entrance into an area that’s not centered on immediate reality can ensure a psychical confort, like a stimulent to reach further and further into the secret of creation. But if you linger there for too long you risk not to be able to detach yourself from it.

Your evolution will be better or worse based on the position that you occupy in relation to the referent, but also in relation to the way in which you stay coonected with yourself in the attempt to overcome your limits. It’s also based on how you expand your perception of the reality. Because the attempt to place yourself on a higher way of "being", that forces you to withdraw in the imaginary and creative, it’s not a warranty that you’ll obtain a developed superiority, forcing you to turn against your values and reason-accepted truths.

Leadership is also the alternative succesion of moves that you do in order to reach a higher understanding level of who you truly are. To fall in the abyss of thoughts and imagination can mea an outstreched hand while you take the basic step towards a more wholesome understanding of life and your place in the world. But it can also facilitate your estrangement from the reality accepted by yourself and the majority.

Who you really are is reflected in the reality you experience within a fiction that represents the future from the perspective of what others cannot see.

The Relationship between Myself and the Parallel Universe is based on the compromise between two entities: Ego and Alter-Ego. The first one asks you to remain within the limits of unanimously accepted normality, while the other one asks you to breach into an unexplored space.

If you don’t want leadership to explose you to the attacks of mediocrity, then give shape and substance to your current reality, without reaching an change in limits that can affect your functional structure.

But do not forget ! If you keep yourself in a "parallel world", unaccepted and misunderstood by your contemporaries you can be taken for inappropriate in a normal society.

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