The Vivid Urge Of Forgotten Hopes
Find the most durable element of your relationship with others, helping them change themselves in a way to feel emotionally comfortable.
Pretty Woman movie. In a central lodge, before starting the show with the opera “Madame Butterfly”, the controversial businessman Edward Lewis, appreciating the restlessness and agitation of his call girl, Vivian Ward, made an observation:
- People’s reactions, when going for the first time to the opera, are very dramatic. They either love it or hate it. It they are to love it, they will always love it. If not, maybe they will learn to appreciate it, but it will never become part of their soul.
Do you have obvious traces of a modeling referring to a “Final State” conception that establishes a close link between practical reason and deterministic intent?
Edward Lewis tried to establish some stable aspects in his relationship with Vivian, striving to understand her true beliefs and aspirations. He deciphered her native emotional architecture, assessing her emotional state, appreciating the great difference between her fears and aspirations, her weaknesses and her strong parts. His intention was a deterministic one, not only because he managed to convince Vivian of the benefits of a new status, but because he argued the causes of his virtue of giving kindness. On top of that, Vivian betrayed the obscure need for a new beginning.
Vivian saw the change almost immediately, the traces of her modeling with the perspective of another horizon being in direct concordance with that state of mind that persists for a long time even after the memories fade. The same state of mind encompasses us all when we understand that love cannot remain eternally impetuous, but at least we know that it has been of some use to us.
Somehow, Vivian was favored to figure out another socio-human horizon, from which you can’t help but look confused, because it rarely happens that you suddenly go from depression to ecstasy. Well, you can’t influence a man if you can’t find his sensitive and positive part, which you can shape at your ease, in accordance with your most precious principles and beliefs. Are you able to assess the deepest, most permanent and constant parts in a man’s life, so as to give him a new direction?
Are you able to remove the negative effects that have deepened in other people’s souls, and depending on their emotional structure to redirect them thoughtfully in the same direction as you, so that they know you better and by knowing you, to make you known to others as well?
Just as a skilled sculptor studies the initial rock, with its natural faults, in order to look for the most sustainable aspect of future forms – so you, as a leader, must be able to reveal the inner beauty of people around you, and depending on their emotional structure, thoughtfully redirect them in the same way with you, so as to eliminate those negative effects which have deepened into their souls. Find the most durable element of your relationship with others, helping them change themselves in a way to feel emotionally comfortable.
The best way to go with someone is to understand that person, to act on his “shape” to manifest in the circumstances of life to the greatest extent possible; to put your mark on his inner being, to passionately follow the twists of his life and his essence. For that, you have to compete with his values and beliefs, and impose your own ideas by which to determine the ideal pattern to which he must continue to strive.
Have you noticed that since Vivian started dating Edward Lewis, she was completely changed, her world began to open more to the world of others? He himself began to be seen with different eyes by other people, something induced a kind of spiritual awakening when he was seen.
Does the way you manifest yourself in the presence of a man with little chance of earning a living help you better understand yourself and form those beliefs that you need in order to act through those arguments of conscience that speak to your soul?
Just like a sculptor manages to convey life into his sculptures, molding them into meaningful forms, so your influence, in order to be taken into account by other people, must be positive and resembling their beliefs – and for it, you must manage to efficiently convey your thoughts and feelings, so as to realize a molding into their emotional structure, in order for them to become deeply aware of their qualities.
As a leader, you must develop the ability to discern the true character of people, get them rid of that emptiness which obsesses them and, with the delicacy of a skilled watchmaker, stimulate their strengths to increase the quality of their work and their desire to achieve performance. Remember that the only arguments of conscience that speak to your soul are the following: the view beyond appearances, the view beyond words, the view beyond reason, the view beyond the surface of things, the view beyond your limits, the view beyond conventional approaches to upsetting situations and see beyond confusions and contradictions (towards a future that others still cannot see).
Their real attitude towards their own professional activity and teamwork can be known only by the leaders who have developed their ability to observe, analyze, as well as skills of good psychologists, and who find appropriate methods and the power to change people for the better. Of course, the watchmaker’s rule also applies in leadership and can be translated as follows: do not enter people’s hearts with the anvil, for you needn’t repair anything with a hammer.
Leadership aims at those decisional experiences in which you can express your appreciation for the initiatives capable of ensuring a sustainable growth of people, so that you become present in their souls at all times.
The Vivid Urge Of Forgotten Hopes sanctifies, in fact, a reality: we can all be a changing factor in the lives of other people, because every one of us has the power to awaken a desire in people’s hearts, creating a “story” of their one choice, the power to strengthen their spiritual forces and illuminate the future – just as a writer is able to create mythical worlds, conveying their feelings.
